“君不正,臣投外国,父不正,子奔他乡。”就是说,父亲必须以身作则,否则无法团结教育子女,履行父亲的管教责任,甚至可能导致父子反目、离心离德。

If a ruler is unscrupulous, his subjects will leave the country; if a father is unscrupulous, his offspring will leave home. That is to say, a father must set a personal example. Failure to do so may make it impossible for him to encourage his child and meet his obligations. Worse still, father and child may grow estranged from each other or even become enemies.

The sages have left us a saying: "If the prince is not upright, his ministers will turn to serve other states; if a father is not upright, his offspring will flee to foreign lands That is to say, a father must teach by personal example, or else he will fail to inspire confidence in his child and to carry out his duty. Worse still, father and son might grow estranged from each other or even become enemies.