Islam is a complete way of life. It considers the family the corner stone of Islamic society. It bases the atmosphere in the family on sacrifice, love, loyalty, and obedience. When we say "family" we mean the traditional definition of it, namely husband, wife and children. Grandparents are also part of the extended Muslim family.
It may be asked here: how does Islam organize family relationships To answer this we have to concentrate on: husband wife relationship and parent children relationship. As for husband wife relationship the following verse portrays the right Islamic atmosphere:
"And among his signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy."
The Prophet of Islam p.b.u.h, also stressed these meanings when he said: The best among you are those who are best to their families and I am the best of you to my family. He once exclaimed: it is only the evil one who abuses them (women) and the honored one is he who honors them. Once a man came to the Prophet p.b.u.h, and asked: who is the person who is most worthy of my good companionship The Prophet answered your mother, your mother, your mother then your father. That is why Islam made Paradise under the feet of mothers according to one tradition of the Prophet p.b.u.h.
These are among the main chapters of the Quran that decide and clearly depict the Islamic relationship between parents and their children. It is a relationship based as we see on belief in Allah, and feeling that He observes all what we do and that we are accountable to Him even in the bad breath that we may release against our parents when we are angry. Even this has to be controlled.
Let us remember, however, that it is only parents who do their duty, who deserve this honorable treatment of their children. That is why when a parent came to the Prophet p.b.u.h, and complained to him about the ingratitude of his son, the son said: He was ungrateful to me O Messenger of Allah, before I showed ingratitude to him. So the Prophet p.b.u.h, did not blame the son but disliked the attitude of his parent. This is a message to all parents.
(*本文中的Prophet of Islam p.b.u.h指先知穆罕墨德，也被称为穆圣；p.b.u.h即peace be upon) What is true about the parent children relationship